Tuesday, November 18, 2014

Warts and Awards

8th Grade Creativity Award, 1989
Theresa Pollak Award, 2014





















Warts and Awards: One is an embarrassing blemish and the other makes you feel  really special. But which is which?

Winning an award is wonderful and horrible, amazing and awkward. It makes you consider all of the awards you have not gotten that your friends, neighbors, colleagues and other people who are better/prettier/richer/smarter than you have. It makes you wonder if you actually deserve the award you did receive or if you're really a skilled fraud that has managed to fool everyone in an elaborate game of make believe. My son illustrated it this way: "You didn't get an award mom, you got a WART!" And actually I have had a whole lot more of those. Not only did I recently have to ask the Kroger pharmacist where the wart remover medication was after not so subtley scouring the entire store without success, a few days later I accidentally applied it as chapstick. 

So, while I am truly honored to have received a Pollak I'm probably going to have to wring my hands over it a little while longer, vacillating between feeling like the best person who ever lived and the worst. In the meantime, I'll try to remember what the hell I was up to in 8th Grade that landed me the magnificent trophy I recently unearthed in the shed, pictured above. I sure was creative at being a hormonal, angst ridden brand new teenager who announced to her mother she was ready to get her own apartment but couldn't apply eyeliner to the correct part of her face. Personally, I think I should win an award for winning two awards exactly 25 years apart.

Monday night I received the beautiful drawing with my name on it (above) after delivering the acceptance speech (below) that got me surprisingly choked up. Because as I prepared for my two minutes of fame the amount of love, support, belief, encouragement, collaboration and connection I've experienced and received in the last 2.5 decades is definitely something to celebrate. And I won't be going to the pharmacy to try to get it removed, further embarrassing myself in the process, anytime soon. 

Thank you so much to the nominators, judges and Richmond Magazine for the honor of this award. I must admit, my first thought after receiving the initial email from Harry letting me know I’d been selected to receive a Pollak, was Holy Expletive! Look at me! I am the Explective Expletive! Followed closely by “Geeez, too bad for Richmond Magazine...they must be pretty hard up to scrape out the bottom of the barrel like this” but that train of thought shows a lot more about how my brain works than the nature of the Pollak Awards.  Because the truth is some truly amazing and beautiful things have been happening in the Richmond writing scene for people of all ages, not because of me but alongside me. The Writing Room, Richmond Young Writers and the adult creative nonfiction workshops and retreats wouldn’t begin to be possible on my steam or sweat or imagination alone. There’s an embarrassment of people I’d like to thank individually and collectively for helping me create and sustain a small but rich pocket of the writing world here in my hometown. My beloved Richmond Young Writers partner Bird Cox (with a shout out to her new baby Ferris who threw up on my shoulder just this morning), my husband Stan who can do everything I can’t do and loves me anyway, my son Henry who redefines creativity for me every day, my rock steady bohemian parents and far flung family, my above average looking friends with high IQs, the writing, reading and bookstore community in Richmond at large and Ward Tefft and Chop Suey books in particular and last but not least Richmond Magazine for never failing to select inspired content- even- or especially when I’m a part of it. Thank you all.

And thank you to Harry Kollatz, Jr. for the beautiful article in Richmond Magazine. I can now cross "being compared to a Tom Robbins' heroine" off my bucket list.

Photo Credit: Sarah Walor, Richmond Magazine, October 2014

Saturday, October 18, 2014

A Welcome Address to Young Writers

   


If you are a writer you may, once or twice before, have had a thought like this:

Writing sucks. I suck. My writing sucks. It’s too hard. I will be judged. I will be made fun of. If I write the truth I will be ex-communicated, disowned. If I write everyone will KNOW. Besides, everything has already been written before. Who cares what I have to say? Do I even care what I have to say? What’s the point? What can I DO with my writing? I’d rather be reading. Or eating. Or picking my nose. I’d rather be making money, even 10 cents an hour scrubbing vomit off the floor. I need to update Facebook, Twitter, Instagram, Google Plus, Ellio. Only my mom will ever read what I write and she will only compliment it because that is in her job requirement as my mother. I don’t want to live a lonely miserable life and die a lonely miserable death. I don’t want FAILED WRITER inscribed on my tombstone.

If you have ever had any version or iteration of these thoughts…CONGRATULATIONS! You are a writer. And the amazing thing is, just as you have the power to use words to convince yourself of all the reasons why you shouldn’t write you also have the power to use words to remind yourself of all the reasons why you should.

I write because I want to find out what I think, how I feel, why I believe and who I am underneath the makeup and the clothing and the skin. I write because writing is the best revenge and the best way around goodbye. I write because it’s is a vehicle for feelings that didn’t want to take the train. Writing is talking in a more colorful version of black and white. I write because it’s the grown up version of passing notes. I write because I’m tone deaf and I can’t sing but I want to be heard.

I write because I’ve found that even the littlest, weirdest, most obscure thought in my head, once written down, is somehow universal. I am my own scientific laboratory, testing ground, petri dish, experiment, lab rat, not only for how I feel but for how others feel, too. I am the universal I, the big and little me, the hole in the donut and the whole donut, perfect in my imperfection, unique just like everyone else. I write to fit in and I write to stand out. Like Lord Byron says, if I don’t write to empty my mind, I go mad. I write to feel better and to feel anything at all, good, bad, beautiful, horrible and so on, forever. 

Here are some answers to the question Why Do You Write? by 2014 Richmond Young Writers, ages 12-16:

I write because my pen holds the secrets of the universe.
I write because I don’t always like the endings of books.
I write because I don’t always remember everything.
I write because it’s a beautiful distraction from reality.
I write because it helps me express what spoken words can’t.
I write to bring characters to life.
I write to get things out of my head.
I write because I am capable of having an infinite number of ideas.
I write because no matter what else happens in my life, writing is always there.
I write because there are words flowing through my veins pleading to get out.
I write because I am the person I want to be when I write.
I write so I can see the world through someone else’s eyes.
I write because I am so manyy different people and so many different stories.
I write to give the voices somewhere to go.
I write because I cannot yet see a whole new universe.
I write so I can move everything from the tallest mountain to the tiniest speck.
I write because I can create and control an entire world.
I write because I like being able to go back and see how I used to think.
I write because it's a way to express myself when I don't feel like talking. 
I write because I feel like I'll explode if I don't pour my words out on paper.
I write to expose evils and celebrate the beautiful.
I write to share what I know and ask others what I don't.
I write because I can immerse myself in a different world. 
I write because writing helps me remember that there's life beyond high school and technicolor dreams beyond the black and white world.
I write to let my feelings out, even the ones I don't know are in me. 
I write to find a way to face emotions. 
I write because murder is illegal.
I write to make people understand why I am the way I am.

Why do you write? What does writing do for you? What can you leave on the page that you don’t want to take with you? What do you bring to the page that you didn’t even know you had? 


And now, for a small inspirational game of Mad Libs (as completed by the young writers of the October 18, 2014 Ad-lib/ Mad-lib/ Surrealism Workshop)

Once upon a time there was an (ADJECTIVE) spicy child named (PLANET) Venus who wanted with all her heart to grow up to be a (PROFESSION) sewage worker, just like her favorite character and role model, (CHARACTER IN A BOOK) Darren Sharp. Even though she had to study (SUBJECT IN SCHOOL) math, (VEGETABLE) children, (PART OF SPEECH) prepositions, (MADE UP WORD) wockets and (SOMETHING HORRIBLE) mothers they read every (NOUN) dragon they could and practiced (VERB) skating whenever they had a spare moment. Even though lots of (ADJECTIVE NOUNS) slimy windows told her it wasn’t practical and she’d never make any (NOUN) racicoriphalatiroisous, she did it anyway. But then while it was (WEIRD WEATHER) cloudy with a chance of meatballs, (SOMETHING WEIRD) life happened. A (IMAGINARY CREATURE) jackal penguin appeared out of the sky just like in the movie (MOVIE) Princess Bride and began to dance and sing (SONG) Never Gonna Give You Up as if what she was doing mattered more than anything else in the entire (PLACE) library. At that moment Venus had an epiphany and began to (VERB) smell. Who cares what anyone else thought or said, even if they said (COMMON PHRASE) it’s raining men, Venus could still follow her dreams. She ended up writing (NUMBER) Pi (GENRE) horror steam punk even though she felt (EMOTION) curious and (EMOTIONagitated. It didn’t matter because she listened to her (BODY PART) belly fat. She was so happy to have created an original (ART FORM) swordsmanship that she yelled (SOUND EFFECTeekcjreohwaerhohwheowed all the way home!



Saturday, October 4, 2014

Shack Martha Stewart



The other night when I got home from teaching, ready for bed and bad TV, my husband started to sand the kitchen ceiling. From my position under the covers I could see white specks of sheet rock begin to coat the pots and pans hanging from their hooks, the stove top and burners (minus the one that had caught on fire that we’d thrown into the back yard the night before), the baskets of apples my son and I had picked at the orchard, the cat food, the coffee maker and every other conceivable surface within 100 feet, including Stan himself.

I got up for a bowl of store-brand granola with expensive organic whole milk (which I will not be entering in the food journal I stopped keeping last Friday) and padded across the plywood floor we let our son draw on with a sharpie until we get our REAL floor- that mythical unicorn of bourgeois renovation I’ve heard plenty about but am not sure will ever actually materialize. My footprints were visible behind me as if I had just tracked across a pristine sandy beach on a tropical island. I poured my granola, resolved not to say a word and pretended instead that we live in the out of doors. On a beach. In a snowstorm. God forbid I impede progress.

Because our house—like our mental health and our marriage—is nothing if not a work in progress. The front porch, living room, backyard, kitchen, bathroom, bedroom and tool shed all under different states of construction. Merge this with my thwarted longing to craft, an allergic reaction to cleaning, a deep inner desire to hostess and an almost primal urge to feed people and make them feel at home—even in a home in which I feel at turns like a queen and the beggar on her knees outside the castle.

Recently, in one of my 12 step groups, I sobbed, “I want to get it all together but I just can’t! Everything is such a mess. I feel like Shack Martha Stewart!” A friend suggested I start a new line of items for the home available exclusively at the Dollar Store. I-Tried-to-Clean-But-Couldn’t-Air-Freshener. Too-Bad-We-Only-Have-Four-Places-To-Sit Placemats. Whoops!-I-Burnt-the-Hell-Out of -Dinner-After Dinner-Mints. I could even make Turn Your Hovel into a Home DYI video based on scavenger hunts through the attic for art to hang on the walls and the arrangement of potted plants almost guaranteed not to die. Truly, they do wonders. We named ours Plant A, Plant B and Bob.

Because I don't want my shame and confusion about how to run a home and be a mother while having a full-time life and a slew of creative projects stop me from ever letting anyone into the house again, I feel I should go ahead and set the record straight now.

If we invite you over you may have to sit on the arm of the ratty leather couch we found a few year's ago. You may get snagged by a booby trap and fall into the dungeon with the child-sized spider crickets. I might serve you the plastic baggie of poop brownies I inadvertently invented 4th of July 2013. Nothing you see will match, is probably second hand and may even be broken. If I apologize for the state of our house I am breaking my New Year's Resolution to stop apologizing for the state of our house. Because more than likely you did not come over to be awed by my ability to mop. Chances are you are more interested in connection and conversation than a shellac of cleanliness. It could be that you like strong coffee in a mismatched mug even if chaos and clutter reign around us. I just have to keep remembering that. 

Friday, August 22, 2014

The Art of Hitting Parked Cars


Part 1  

The first time it happens, laugh it off. Marvel at the four foot scar carved into the side of your station wagon, fresh like surgery. Praise God there are no visible scars on your husband’s truck and watch happily while he shows you the Bob’s Burgers clip of Tina hitting the only car in the parking lot while her father’s teaching her how to drive. Over and over and over again. Wait two months.

Part 2

Hit another parked car, this time a stranger’s in the grocery store parking lot. Don’t escape the scene like you used to woulda done when you were young and wild and drunk. Accept a hug from an acquaintance who saw the whole thing and listen while she tells you about the time she knocked over a motorcycle at church. Feel better…for a second. Leave a note AND page the driver of the black SUV at customer service. Exchange information. Note the miracle of having, not only insurance but a current insurance card. Feel like you are play-acting the role of responsible adult. Accept the kindness of friends and strangers who emerge from the the woodwork to tell you about the times they’ve had run-ins with stationary objects, ditches, trees, other seemingly stable forces of nature. Listen to two voices in your head: the one who finds you delightful and charming and the one who wants you dead. Cry for the next two days. Call yourself an idiot, wonder what’s wrong with you, how you could be so dumb, why anyone likes you anyway, full body sobs that take your breath away.

Part 3

Share at a 12-step meeting what a fool you are, still crying, shaken. Feel confused when a woman with spiky silver hair and kind blue eyes comes up to you afterwards and says, “Oh honey, I’m a perfectionist too.” Say back, “but I’m not perfect enough to be a perfectionist.” With a house and a body and a history like yours, how could you be?

Part 4

Three days later, appear on the news to talk about an organization you and people you care deeply about have worked really hard to create, an organization you are passionate about, that touches the heart of everything you know to be true. Feel the overwhelming support of the community that raised you, to whom you are now trying in some way to give something back. Outside of the green room and the bright lights and the cameras, in the warm glow of the day, feel carried by connection and belief and creativity and support. At a celebratory breakfast, heart still pumping with the adrenaline of live TV, glance at your phone and do a double-take at a screenshot of yourself in the outfit that looked so charming that morning in the mirror. Is that really you? Feel your stomach curl around the sinking knot of shame that spreads through your middle like hot spilled milk. Cringe. Breathe. Tell yourself to stop it right now, that you’re a feminist, that you’ve already dealt with this shit, that you know better. Listen to the two voices fight it out and stagger back as the loudest voice wins. Cry for the next two days. Call yourself a fat cow, wonder  what’s wrong with you, how you could be so shameful, why anyone likes you anyway, full body sobs that take your breath away.

Part 5

Call your mother and tell her how you feel. When she asks, “Do you blame me for this?” say, “you and all of western civilization.”  Nod and laugh and cry when she says, “Honey, remember when everything in your life used to turn to shit? It’s not like that anymore. These days, you’re falling up.  The only person left who hates you is you. Maybe what you’re really afraid of is success, of loving your life, of actually letting yourself be happy.” Laugh and cry and cry and laugh when she sends you the cheesiest, worst, most beautiful video in the history of the world two minutes after you get off the phone. Watch it again. Turn it up.

Part 6 

Pull the survivor out of the car, lay her on the stretcher. Show her the damage, real and imagined, the body of the car, still intact. Whisper, pray, beg, coddle, tease down the knowledge locked in your head as it makes its way through the jungle of what you think and know and believe to your heart. Hold your own hand, bandage your wounds. Take steam baths. Don’t save the good salts for later. Try on the eyes and brain and words of everyone you know. Write it out again and again. Blindly stab the ghosts, swaddle the babies. When the voice gets loud, get louder. Wake up laughing. Notice how beautiful it is to be happy, instead of the other way around. Get back behind the wheel; drive in a different direction; avoid impact. Treat yourself the way you would treat anyone you were learning how to love.











Thursday, July 17, 2014

The New Normal Looks Kind of…Normal.



Each year as I approach my birthday I look around to take stock of the changes I have created or endured. So far this year I have not worked on a cruise ship, had a baby, backpacked through Europe, modeled in the nude, detoxed from drugs and alcohol or tried to overhaul every single thing about life as I know it.

           But this week, I did call to have a ding in my windshield repaired before it turned into a cracked-out emergency—and no one had even thrown a pumpkin through it. After that, I scheduled a check-up even though all of my limbs are firmly attached, my head is not on fire and I only have a low-grade sense that I will die…eventually. I asked my husband to help me pick out some new running shoes. (What?! Did the word RUNNING come out of my face?!) To top it all off, I asked my family to have a sit down dinner. At the table. 

Clearly, these changes are more of the tip-toeing down the graduated steps into the pool one inch at a time rather than cannon-balling off the diving board variety. So incremental, I almost haven’t noticed anything's different until bam! suddenly I am underwater swimming through the legs of strangers. Or, as the case may be trying to get my family to sit down together at the table for dinner.

The impact has been just as profound.

At our first family dinner, my husband announced that he had eaten lunch five minutes before and that he was not hungry. "Not" and "hungry" rarely if ever show up together in my personal lexicon but that’s another blog-post. However, he obliged me by sitting at the table with a glass of water, enduring my pronouncements about the importance of togetherness. When I reached out to hold hands for grace, my son looked at me as if I had asked him to climb on the table, beat his chest like a gorilla and toss about his own feces, possibly an activity he would have preferred. “WE ARE GOING TO HAVE A NICE SIT DOWN FAMILY DINNER AND WE ARE GOING TO LIKE IT,” I screamed as they stared on in wonder at the new-super-human-mom-wife-woman before them.

 Growing up, my mother did cook and we did say grace, but most often from a table cloth on the floor because all of the surfaces in the house were too cluttered for plates. On the evenings I was with my dad, we either circled a loop of fast food chains or, at home, ate with our TV dinners on our laps on one of the couches he assembled from parts in the alley while watching Mr. T. Though I have had thousands of beautiful family dinners during and since that time, for some reason these are the ones that have engraved themselves most deeply in my neural coding.

Even though dinner with proper plates and utensils and topics of conversation was a bit bizarre the first night, we did it again the second. My husband cooked. And it was just a little less weird. In fact, it was absolutely wonderful. It was as much of a marvel as the other people on the Greyhound cross country or the Euro-rail  from Prague to Budapest. In the right light, my own family contains as much mystery and intrigue as the Seven Wonders of the World. 

            For the first time in my life I'd rather prevent than invite drama. However, I have noticed that the more “low-key” I want to be, the more high-maintenance I actually am. The longer I stay sober the more work it takes to stay that way—not just physically but mentally, emotionally and spiritually. I used to pride myself on my ability to roll out of bed--or sleeping bag--and stumble into the next adventure (read: ill-advised drunken escapade) all fancy-free in the clothes I’d slept in the night before. I was always ready to go! Now I require a full teeth-brushing, clothes that don’t smell like the sewer, some form of exercise, a decent helping of healthy food and no less than 17-87 interactions with any number of 12-step programs ending in the letter A.

This year as I walk-- not stumble-- into 39, I have found myself wanting more family interaction and less performance art, more day trips into the country and less surreal dream sequences through the bowels of the underworld. I hope to God I always have both, but for now I want to spend as much time as I can witnessing and appreciating and discovering the world that is right in front of my face, the world I would be an idiot to miss.  







Friday, June 6, 2014

Brook Road Academy Commencement Speech, June 2014





First of all, thank you so much for asking me to be here today. I consider the opportunity to speak to a class of graduating seniors who have managed to survive the entire length of high school, along with the parents and teachers and staff who have survived along with them, right up there with speaking to Oprah or God.

Thinking back on my own graduation, I honestly can’t remember if there was a speaker or not. I can’t remember what it felt like to walk across a stage or receive my diploma. I do remember the same feeling of relief that comes after finishing a very, very, very long book. I remember that I finally knew more than my mother and that I had at last achieved immortality. I remember believing with conviction that some combination of a new hair color (purple, red or Mountain Dew) and getting as far away from home as possible would turn me into the person I’d always wanted to become.

I was halfway right. Dying your hair the color of Mountain Dew does change everything.

Of course, what I wanted to change was the world but I did not yet know how to really change myself. Even then, however, I knew what I loved—words and stories—and like the oil that kept the temple fire burning much longer than it should have, that little fire stayed alive inside of me too, despite all the things I did that could have put it out. And we’re not talking a little drip here, but full-on fire extinguishers. I know you guys are all perfect angels, but I was rebellious and experimental. What would I have wanted someone to tell me at my own high school graduation? What could I have heard?

I could have heard that it was going to get better and that the people who had told me that the high school years were the best of my life were lying. You are about to graduate. And I mean it when I say congratulations. This is no small accomplishment. It appears that Brook Road Academy is an excellent school with the finest teachers around, but please, don’t believe anyone who tells you that at 17 and 18 you have already reached the pinnacle of your life and that it’s all a slow miserable decline from here. You have not lived out your glory years which will end this week with your coursework. While I hope that this has been a challenging fulfilling time in your life, your best years, I believe, are yet to come.

When I was in elementary school I played a game with my girlfriends called “Fresh Out of College.”  In our elaborate game of make-believe, we had perfect jobs, perfect boyfriends and perfect hair because, guess what? Once we had that degree we would live happily ever after, amen.  

Unfortunately, I learned the hard way, like so many other people I know that receiving a piece of paper, no matter which one it is you have set your sights on-- a high school diploma or a college or graduate or masters degree or a driver’s license and registration or the deed to a home or a marriage license or a birth certificate—none of these are a guarantee for happiness. Buddha, Jesus, God, Krishna and the Tooth Fairy won’t come down and sign a lifetime-of-bliss warrantee on the dotted line. Your high school diplomas are wonderful landmarks on the maps of your life, but they are not the final destination. In fact, I have found there is no destination on any map or any other piece of paper that can tell me whether or not I have really, finally, actually arrived, although recently having my face made into a shrinky dink and hung in an art show that took place in a local bathroom did come close.

When I was 23, I came home to Richmond after travelling through New York, Italy, Colorado, Arkansas and Alaska. I was nearly broke and felt broken. So far I had successfully used my expensive liberal arts degree to wait tables, scrub toilets and vacuum hairballs out of hallways. I was a failure.

It was a beautiful spring day but I sobbed into my pillow with my mom and my cat Felecia at my side. “Mom,” I wailed. “I have no money! I can’t get a job! I am the biggest loser in the whole entire history of the world!”

“Honey,” my mom said back. “Look at Felecia.” My cat purred next to me like an Egyptian Queen, licking luxuriantly between each of her outstretched toes. “Does she have a job? How much money is in her bank account?

“None,” I had to admit. Felecia yawned up at us and then settled in for a cat-nap. I had to admit, being so divine day after day must have been absolutely exhausting.

“That’s right,” said my mother. “She makes no money and spends her day doing next to nothing. And she’s perfect just the way she is. You are a human being, honey, not a human doing.” And then my mother went on to tell me, as she had before, that my worth was not determined by how much money I made or the line items on my resume. And for some reason on this day I was finally able to hear her.

Learning to believe that I’m OK just as I am, that I’m not the sum of a list of numbers or grades---that I can trust and love myself no matter what kind of job or money or friends or clothes or car or husband I have---has been, I think, some of the biggest ongoing work of my lifetime. It’s inner work, work that is hard to see or measure or evaluate or grade. But it’s this inner work that has allowed the outer work to happen.

What I do has begun to come into alignment with who I am, but this did not happen because the road was straight and smoothly paved and I drove a cherry-red two door Dodge Challenger. Driving five hundred dollar Hondas with no windshield wipers, misreading directions, stumbling out of the car and scraping my knees on the pavement, flat tires, construction zones, speeding tickets, high tolls, traffic jams and even traffic court and driving school have all been elements my path has been made of. I’ve been rejected from schools and literary magazines, laid off and passed over for jobs I thought I had to have.

But as Samuel Beckett famously wrote: "Ever tried. Ever failed. No matter. Try Again. Fail again. Fail better."  

Accepting my failures, leaning into my weaknesses, learning from my mistakes, and taking the circuitous, bumpy route, it turns out, has been the charted course towards a life beyond my wildest dreams, one which is truly beginning to happen, thorns and warts and fender benders and all.

I am now lucky enough to have a job where I spend my days listening to other people tell their stories while also having the opportunity to write my own. I have come to believe that the power of sharing who you are, whether that manifests as a poem or a song or a letter or a garden or a meal or an invention or an equation or a computer program is a better gift to the world than a stack of credentials behind your name or the total dollar amount in your 401K. 

I would like to share with you now a poem that says so beautifully things I want to know that I’m still inclined to forget.

Wild Geese, by Mary Oliver

You do not have to be good.
You do not have to walk on your knees
for a hundred miles through the desert repenting.
You only have to let the soft animal of your body
love what it loves.
Tell me about despair, yours, and I will tell you mine.
Meanwhile the world goes on.
Meanwhile the sun and the clear pebbles of the rain
are moving across the landscapes,
over the prairies and the deep trees,
the mountains and the rivers.
Meanwhile the wild geese, high in the clean blue air,
are heading home again.
Whoever you are, no matter how lonely,
the world offers itself to your imagination,
calls to you like the wild geese, harsh and exciting –
over and over announcing your place
in the family of things.

So, right now, whether you are going to on to a big college or a little college or no college at all, whether you are interested in words, stories, social justice, animals, science, the environment, documentaries, car engines, mechanics, computer engineering, video games, internet privacy, censorship, Africa or Kling-on, whether you intend to wear a blue collar or a white one, to work with your head or your hands, I hope you learn to make the big decisions with your heart. And I hope you know, as hard as it is to believe, that each of you right now are just as perfect as my cat Felecia.


The best years of your life are not over. Your story doesn’t end when you walk out of these doors. This chapter simply must close to make way for the next. May your best years be yet to come, may the force be with you, and good luck.